| Waking up one day and realizing your world just isn't | | | | girl" syndrome. This may be the worst offender in |
| working for | | | | the case |
| you is the first step into an incredibly exciting new | | | | against remembering your spirit and inner truth. The |
| journey. | | | | good girl |
| That awakening is to be the first of many. Maybe | | | | syndrome is so deeply ingrained that the child |
| you've been | | | | seemingly lives to |
| reading self improvement books and feeling like | | | | please others. Others are the priority, and the self |
| something is | | | | doesn't |
| missing. That's a sure sign your life may be changing, | | | | really matter. In fact, it feels as though the self |
| especially | | | | doesn't even |
| if you are beginning to question your own spirit.Have | | | | exist. It's been so long since the self had a chance |
| you listened to yourself lately? I mean really listened? | | | | to speak |
| | | | that there is virtually no sense of self left at all. All |
| Did you hear anything? Maybe your inner voice has | | | | those |
| been quiet and | | | | times being told "No!" have accumulated into a pliable |
| suppressed for so long it forgot how to speak. | | | | body, a |
| Maybe it really | | | | seeming automaton, a robot who is only here to |
| has wanted to speak but hasn't been given | | | | serve others. |
| permission.Recently I saw the result of a study on | | | | Sound familiar?Is it any wonder why so many people |
| one of the prime-time | | | | are searching for assistance |
| news shows. The study showed that by the time a | | | | in this day and age? The book industry is loaded |
| child is five | | | | with self-help |
| years old, that child will have been told "No!" over | | | | books. There is a growing discomfort within this |
| 100,000 | | | | world of |
| times! What are the ramifications of this? Just | | | | robots. Like Robin Williams in Bicentennial Man, there |
| imagine. A | | | | is a |
| child's only job is to just be who they are. That's it! | | | | growing desire within our own lives that makes us |
| Can you | | | | stop and say, |
| imagine that if 9 times out of 10, the child was just | | | | "Wait a minute, this is not enough for me. I have a |
| being | | | | voice and |
| him/herself and was told "No."? Eventually the child | | | | somewhere deep down inside of me, I have a self, |
| internalizes | | | | and it's time I |
| this simple word into the understanding that being | | | | found out who that is."Being a robot no longer |
| the self is | | | | works for us once we have that initial |
| not okay.The painful truth is that most of society | | | | awareness, that one little light bulb that turns on |
| has been raised this | | | | inside that |
| way. What does it mean when this child becomes an | | | | says, "There must be something more to my life |
| adult? That | | | | than this." That |
| adult is shut off from his/her spirit and is living life | | | | one little sentence begins a domino effect inside, |
| according to someone else's rules, limitations, ideas, | | | | tumbling down |
| parameters | | | | the building blocks of denial that formulated the |
| and belief systems. This adult may be unable to | | | | structure of |
| make decisions | | | | our lives at such a young age.Once this crumbling |
| without consulting others, looking to others to make | | | | begins, it truly is a 'brand new day.' The |
| the | | | | world begins to look different and feel different. |
| decisions for them.This is where that underlying | | | | That's |
| word "No!" setup the outside | | | | because you are different. You asked a question |
| authority figure that the adult still looks for today. | | | | and found a |
| He/she | | | | voice. Now is the time to begin the search to find |
| doesn't realize, and was never really taught, that | | | | your self. |
| when you | | | | It's in there somewhere, underneath all those denial |
| become an adult you also become your own | | | | blocks, |
| authority figure. That | | | | limitations, boundaries and belief systems. A self is |
| may be an implied belief at 18. "You're an adult now | | | | waiting to |
| and you have | | | | be born!Remember, our parents always did the best |
| to make your own decisions," the 18 year old is told. | | | | they could with what |
| This | | | | they knew how to do. If they had been raised any |
| statement, however, does not include the words, | | | | differently |
| "You no longer | | | | themselves, then they would have raised you |
| require our (parents') permission. You are your own | | | | differently, but they |
| authority | | | | weren't. So, there's no blame here, plain and simple. |
| now." Wow, wouldn't that have been nice if it had | | | | It's just |
| been spelled | | | | finally time to start breaking the generational family |
| out like that. Unfortunately we take some of that | | | | patterning. It starts with you.Your questioning and |
| authority and | | | | questing breaks the chain. You know that |
| dump it into doing things that we've always wanted | | | | once you remember your self, you will pass a new |
| to do | | | | way of being |
| externally, like drinking, partying and more.But, how | | | | onto your children. As you grow, learn and discover |
| much of that is a rebellion and how much is | | | | your self, |
| remembering | | | | you can't help but share that new expression with |
| your spirit and the inner truth of your being? It gives | | | | others. |
| you | | | | Remember to welcome your self to this world. |
| something to think about.Maybe you've never | | | | Remember that it |
| rebelled. Many women suffer from the "good | | | | truly is OK to just be your SELF! |