| "Can I have a girlfriend, teacher?" asked
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| | character, maturity and wisdom. He
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| one of my students Iskandar. I looked at
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| | voluntarily left his managerial position
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| the boy and was speechless. I did not
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| | although the company wanted him to stay
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| know whether I would be giving him false
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| | badly and "create" some role to fit him
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| hope and unrealistic expectations or
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| | in. He told me as we were hanging out one
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| giving him more faith to believe for a
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| | day,"I know who I am, Paul. I don't want
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| better future.
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| | any free hand outs.
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| The school I was volunteering at were for
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| | Even with this leg gone, I can still
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| kids who were mildly to moderately
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| | create and add value for people in other
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| mentally handicapped mostly because of
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| | ways." I was moved, encouraged and
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| Down Syndrome. Iskandar was mildly
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| | inspired by his faith and sense of
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| handicapped and was just short of
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| | dignity. Joe is now an established
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| qualifying for the local school system.
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| | consultant from the field he used to be a
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| He was a very cheerful and polite boy and
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| | manager. He is also a savvy investor and
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| who is blessed with a loving and
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| | is a partner of several small and medium
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| supportive family. Having a loving and
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| | enterprises. I admire his great and
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| supportive family and environment is
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| | inspirational comeback.
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| critical for a disable person. It could
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| | "Disabled dating?" Joe looked at me and
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| make or break them.
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| | smiled. "Yes I do think about having a
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| The question from Iskandar had been in my
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| | dating relationship sometimes."
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| heart for a long time even after I have
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| | After the accident, Joe asked his fiancee
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| stopped volunteering because of too many
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| | to leave and to move on. I don't know how
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| commitments in family, work and life.
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| | he did it..but it must had been very
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| Should disabled people - be it physical
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| | painful.
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| or mental be encouraged to form dating
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| | "I know, Paul. It would definitely make
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| relationships that could potentially lead
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| | life happier and more meaningful because
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| to marriage? What positives can disabled
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| | you have a closer friend, a companion to
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| dating bring?
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| | share your life with," said Joe. "But
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| Firstly, it's not really a question of
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| | we've got to think further than that too
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| whether they can or not. Every person has
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| | you know. Everyone is free to pursue the
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| the freedom to express their beliefs,
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| | relationship of their dreams and I
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| ideas and passion. However, while all
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| | encourage them to.
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| things are permissible, not everything is
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| | Personally, I guess I think too much
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| beneficial and careful and wise
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| | about the future. Because I believe that
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| reflection should be given especially
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| | dating should be taken seriously and
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| when such a question is posed to us by
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| | dating can lead to marriage and marriage
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| sincere individuals.
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| | is for life. If I become a father, who is
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| Over the years, I have mingled and made
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| | going to play football with the kids?
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| friends with people who are visually and
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| | And in this wheel chair, I am more liable
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| physically handicapped who try to fit in
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| | for accidents to happen at home and if
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| and live a "normal" life in society.
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| | something happens who will take care of
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| Disabled dating is often the last thing
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| | the family?" Joe speaks passionately and
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| on their mind because they are burdened
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| | it was obvious it was something close to
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| with many worries - financial,
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| | his heart.
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| relationship and health.
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| | Well, I have met families where mum and
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| Come to think of it, they are definitely
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| | dad are blind while the child isn't.
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| just like normal people just with
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| | While these families often struggle
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| different problems to deal with. Not to
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| | financially because the parents can't
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| digress from the main purpose of this
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| | bring in substantial income, they are
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| article, I would argue that every person
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| | happy and they learn how to make it work.
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| always has some form of disability and
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| | I admire them greatly and my heart goes
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| the greatest disabilities are unseen
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| | out to all these people who DARE to love
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| rather than seen.
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| | and to shoulder the responsibility of
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| A prideful, stubborn and lazy attitude is
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| | taking care of others.
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| a terrible disability for example. A girl
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| | Disabled dating CAN bring hope.
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| who had been sexually abused since young
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| | But you must have hope in yourself first!
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| might carry emotional scars and wounds
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| | Because if the relationship doesn't work
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| that could make her emotionally disabled
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| | out, like everyone else you will spiral
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| and prevent her from ever having an
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| | down the hole of depression because you
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| authentic romantic relationship unless
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| | are not assured of your self worth and
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| she receives healing and restoration
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| | value.
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| within.
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| | I wish I could travel back to the moment
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| So in a way, everyone experiences
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| | when Iskandar asked me that question and
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| disabled dating because we all have our
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| | give him a real answer rather than just
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| imperfections both physically and
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| | silence. I would tell him "Iskandar, can
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| emotionally and our own unique set of
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| | you love someone and be committed to that
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| problems.
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| | person and take responsibility for that
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| However, for the sake of our readers, let
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| | person for the rest of your life even if
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| us talk more about the practical pros and
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| | it doesn't work out? You can be all that
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| cons of disabled dating from the
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| | you have within yourself to be! Dream big
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| perspective of physical and mental
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| | and work hard to make all your dreams
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| disabilities. As mentioned earlier,
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| | come true."
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| everything is permissible but not
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| | To all in the disabled community, I thank
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| everything is beneficial. A friend of
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| | you. Your life and your courage to
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| mine has a relative (let's give him the
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| | continue living inspires the world. Keep
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| name "Joe") who lost one of his leg in a
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| | looking at the possibilities and keep
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| car accident.
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| | walking toward the dream that beats and
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| Thankfully, Joe is a man of strong
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| | pulsates within your heart. All the best.
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