| Waking up one day and realizing your world | | | | |
| just isn't working for | | | | against remembering your spirit and inner |
| | | | truth. The good girl |
| you is the first step into an incredibly | | | | |
| exciting new journey. | | | | syndrome is so deeply ingrained that the |
| | | | child seemingly lives to |
| That awakening is to be the first of many. | | | | |
| Maybe you've been | | | | please others. Others are the priority, and |
| | | | the self doesn't |
| reading self improvement books and feeling | | | | |
| like something is | | | | really matter. In fact, it feels as though |
| | | | the self doesn't even |
| missing. That's a sure sign your life may be | | | | |
| changing, especially | | | | exist. It's been so long since the self had |
| | | | a chance to speak |
| if you are beginning to question your own | | | | |
| spirit.Have you listened to yourself lately? | | | | that there is virtually no sense of self |
| I mean really listened? | | | | left at all. All those |
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| Did you hear anything? Maybe your inner | | | | times being told "No!" have accumulated into |
| voice has been quiet and | | | | a pliable body, a |
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| suppressed for so long it forgot how to | | | | seeming automaton, a robot who is only here |
| speak. Maybe it really | | | | to serve others. |
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| has wanted to speak but hasn't been given | | | | Sound familiar?Is it any wonder why so many |
| permission.Recently I saw the result of a | | | | people are searching for assistance |
| study on one of the prime-time | | | | |
| | | | in this day and age? The book industry is |
| news shows. The study showed that by the | | | | loaded with self-help |
| time a child is five | | | | |
| | | | books. There is a growing discomfort within |
| years old, that child will have been told | | | | this world of |
| "No!" over 100,000 | | | | |
| | | | robots. Like Robin Williams in Bicentennial |
| times! What are the ramifications of this? | | | | Man, there is a |
| Just imagine. A | | | | |
| | | | growing desire within our own lives that |
| child's only job is to just be who they are. | | | | makes us stop and say, |
| That's it! Can you | | | | |
| | | | "Wait a minute, this is not enough for me. |
| imagine that if 9 times out of 10, the child | | | | I have a voice and |
| was just being | | | | |
| | | | somewhere deep down inside of me, I have a |
| him/herself and was told "No."? Eventually | | | | self, and it's time I |
| the child internalizes | | | | |
| | | | found out who that is."Being a robot no |
| this simple word into the understanding that | | | | longer works for us once we have that initial |
| being the self is | | | | |
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| not okay.The painful truth is that most of | | | | awareness, that one little light bulb that |
| society has been raised this | | | | turns on inside that |
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| way. What does it mean when this child | | | | says, "There must be something more to my |
| becomes an adult? That | | | | life than this." That |
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| adult is shut off from his/her spirit and is | | | | one little sentence begins a domino effect |
| living life | | | | inside, tumbling down |
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| according to someone else's rules, | | | | the building blocks of denial that |
| limitations, ideas, parameters | | | | formulated the structure of |
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| and belief systems. This adult may be unable | | | | our lives at such a young age.Once this |
| to make decisions | | | | crumbling begins, it truly is a 'brand new |
| | | | day.' The |
| without consulting others, looking to others | | | | |
| to make the | | | | world begins to look different and feel |
| | | | different. That's |
| decisions for them.This is where that | | | | |
| underlying word "No!" setup the outside | | | | because you are different. You asked a |
| | | | question and found a |
| authority figure that the adult still looks | | | | |
| for today. He/she | | | | voice. Now is the time to begin the search |
| | | | to find your self. |
| doesn't realize, and was never really | | | | |
| taught, that when you | | | | It's in there somewhere, underneath all |
| | | | those denial blocks, |
| become an adult you also become your own | | | | |
| authority figure. That | | | | limitations, boundaries and belief systems. |
| | | | A self is waiting to |
| may be an implied belief at 18. "You're an | | | | |
| adult now and you have | | | | be born!Remember, our parents always did the |
| | | | best they could with what |
| to make your own decisions," the 18 year old | | | | |
| is told. This | | | | they knew how to do. If they had been raised |
| | | | any differently |
| statement, however, does not include the | | | | |
| words, "You no longer | | | | themselves, then they would have raised you |
| | | | differently, but they |
| require our (parents') permission. You are | | | | |
| your own authority | | | | weren't. So, there's no blame here, plain |
| | | | and simple. It's just |
| now." Wow, wouldn't that have been nice if | | | | |
| it had been spelled | | | | finally time to start breaking the |
| | | | generational family |
| out like that. Unfortunately we take some of | | | | |
| that authority and | | | | patterning. It starts with you.Your |
| | | | questioning and questing breaks the chain. |
| dump it into doing things that we've always | | | | You know that |
| wanted to do | | | | |
| | | | once you remember your self, you will pass a |
| externally, like drinking, partying and | | | | new way of being |
| more.But, how much of that is a rebellion and | | | | |
| how much is remembering | | | | onto your children. As you grow, learn and |
| | | | discover your self, |
| your spirit and the inner truth of your | | | | |
| being? It gives you | | | | you can't help but share that new expression |
| | | | with others. |
| something to think about.Maybe you've never | | | | |
| rebelled. Many women suffer from the "good | | | | Remember to welcome your self to this world. |
| | | | Remember that it |
| girl" syndrome. This may be the worst | | | | |
| offender in the case | | | | truly is OK to just be your SELF! |